Friend or Foe
June 15th, 2005 byI’ve got this friend who loves to tell me all about her day, career, beliefs and pretty much everything else in in her life… in great detail. Not only am I told about all of this fun stuff but I’m expected to remember quite a bit of it in detail. I’m often asked about specific things at later dates. This afternoon, while talking about her career I notice a moment when my particular career can possibly be of use to help her out. I brought it up. The funny thing was, she didn’t remember or even know what my career is. Forget that we’ve talked about it previously in detail. How lame is that? Gave me of a bit of a gauge on just how one-sided things can be in friendships.
It was frustrating, and disappointing. It hurt a little bit and bummed me out. People can be pretty selfish and expect a lot out of others while being very unwilling to give a damn thing themselves. I’ve been on the wrong end of this type of friendship too many times. So when I invest my time, attention and friendship with someone I expect that they match the effort. Actually I demand it. I’ve had too many energy suckers and attention suckers in my life. What really bums me out right now is knowing that this is actually enough for me to end a friendship. And that’s just what I’m going to do.